I've decided that I'm tired of not blogging simply because I have nothing new, incredible, or wise to say about losing weight! I've put off visiting with my best blogger buddies because I haven't been following a food plan to the letter. I've become disinterested in reading the ups and downs of numbers on scales and the accompanying jubilation or plunge into depression.
Confession? I love reading your blogs because I find you interesting as people...not dieters!
And I'm missing the people behind the weight loss blogs because one at a time we are taking breaks from our blogs. Is it because, like me, you are a little tired of talking about what you've eaten, how far you've walked, or how many points are in peanut butter?
Don't get me wrong...maintaining a healthy weight is important and sharing that battle with other bloggers is so helpful! But I want friendships too.
I've discovered so many delightful people in the past couple of years and I share much more than weight loss with them. I delight in their lives, their accomplishments, their stories, their families. If they never lost another pound, I would still care about them as people...as cyber friends.
When it snows in Milwaukee, I wonder if TB and his wife will get to work, if they will play in the snow with their kids, and if the latest baby is doing well.
When I don't see a new post from Skinny in a while, I wonder if he's ok and if he's working long hours again!
When I see Kate taking a break from her blog, I hope she is ok and not bothered too much by that last .8 she wants to lose. I want to hear about her baking and new recipes and if her Mom is doing well.
When I don't hear from Noelle, I hope she is well and the kids are having fun on their summer break. I see her canning and making jelly and taking a few minutes to knit something.
And I am always appreciative of Cathy's latest well-thought-out blog entries...I learn so much from her. But I also enjoy the little glimpses into her life...where they celebrate an evening out or her inspirational entries.
I miss celebrating NASCAR with Shannon. I could go on and on...Cammy, Tori, JC, Pattie, Cynthia, Sunny, Lora, Caroline...I love sharing a bit of your lives as I read your blogs. I care about your weight if you care...but I also love reading about your bar exams, your visits to the lake, your gardens, your trips to the farmer's market.
So...I've renamed my blog. It is now Kathy Calculates: Life...I still care about weight loss and that is probably how you found my blog in the first place. It may have been the only thing we had in common at first, but, over time, I hope it isn't the only thing we have in common and the only reason you return.
My hope is that, like me, your desire is to connect with people who share a common goal...that of achieving and maintaining a healthy weight. Connecting and caring involves so much more than numbers...it requires getting to know the person behind those numbers. I believe with all my heart that it is the connection with the people I've found through my blog that has helped me more over the past couple of years than their weights or the plan they are following.
By learning about the people behind the blogs, I have a deeper appreciation for the fact that these people face the same hurdles that I do...that there is nothing magical about having lost a few pounds...that no matter how far you've come with weight loss that there is still life to be lived every day. Family celebrations come and go...holidays have to be dealt with...and eating plans have to be figured out. But when I woke up this morning and looked out the window, my happiness came from seeing my flowers in the garden. I wasn't lonely even though the man of the house is in Canada fishing and out of reach for a week cause my faithful Kipper was right there beside me. I find joy in calls from my daughters and sharing funny e-mails with a grandkid. I find creative pleasure in my knitting. I am so much more than a number on a scale!
So, I am going to get back to my blogging because it gives me pleasure. If I have something grand to share about weight loss, I will write about that. But, I will also share my life...my excitement that my favorite driver came in second last week!!! That my favorite candidate has the opportunity to make history in the fall. That my flowers always make me smile!
And I will celebrate my blogger friendships! You are the best!
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
PAH!!!
Posted by Kathy at 9:18 AM
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I think this is a great post. I keep other blogs that I still maintain, talking about my daily life & non-weight-related items... so I've neglected this blog b/c the weight loss isn't happening... but you're right, we shouldn't stop blogging just b/c we're not focused on weight loss at the moment... there are always other things we can blog about. Great idea!
I just stumbled on your blog a day or two ago. I really enjoyed this post -- sometimes we need to remind ourselves that it's o.k. to "stray" from the original purpose for our blogs. Our writing will evolve while we, as individuals, grow. I'm linking to this blog and look forward to future posts!
Well said! I couldn't agree more. I also care deeply about my blogging friends and their lives, and yes losing weight is good and all that.. but there is more to people and there is more to live. I get a lot of pleasure out of reading their (and your) blogs and find out what goes on in their lives.
Welcome back :)
Teale...thanks so much for your follow up on my blog entry. I feel so much better to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way. Thank goodness for our creative sides, huh? Sometimes when I'm knitting or writing in earnest, I have no interest in eating and that in itself is reason enough to let our hearts and minds explore subjects other than weight loss at every turn! I am definitely going to explore your "letterboxing"...I don't think there is a craft I haven't checked out and I'm not going to stop now! Have a great day,
Your so right! I think alot of us begin to feel like we are only the number on the scale, and that there aren't any other elements that people want to hear about in our lives. Thanks for the reminder of that.
As far as me, I just took a step back from everything. I've felt consumed by weight loss lately, and other aspects of my life that haven't been going well. But fear not, I'm already feeling a bit better, and I'll be back to posting real soon!
I miss the same types of things! I just found that the more I blogged about my weight, the more depressed I got. Maybe I should start my blog back up, but focus on my life. I might just do that :)
Can you believe Mikey got 2nd last week?!!!! I will keep my mouth shut about the 42 car.. I can't even name him without getting pissed.
Daniele...Thanks so much for your comment and support! I enjoy your blog too...I love reading about English life in any form. My ancestors came from England early in the 17th Century and settled in what was to become the state of Maryland. Between that and my love for the English cozy...murder ala Christie and Sayers...I am taken with "lido" and "Bournemouth beach" and the like! I love the two quotes you have in your sidebar, btw!
Kate...Thanks for the comment and please post a little here and there just to let us know what you're doing and what you have in the oven!
Shannon! It is so good to hear from you and share a little NASCAR!!! Now this is what I'm talking about!!! Of course, start writing again...I want to hear about your job and your schoolwork and the hubby! More...more...more!
Alysha...Fabulous writing! And just what I'm getting at in my latest blog entry. I might have looked briefly at your blog and thought to myself that I have nothing in common with a young runner from New York...triathalons? Granny isn't interested! And I would have missed this fabulous entry and the thought that went into it. I'm happy to know you!
"Taking on a larger-than-life, daunting task is obviously terrifying, and of course there will be moments when you doubt yourself. The key is moving beyond your fears -- embrace the reality that you most likely will make mistakes, rather than dreading them and setting unrealistic goals of perfection for yourself. By embracing the truth the you, like everyone else, are fallible, you can move beyond the paralyzing fear and start to have some fun. And doesn't the shear enjoyment of the moment make it all worthwhile?
If nothing else, this article proves that once we accept that we won't be perfectly infallible, we each can become something far more interesting."
How funny that you write this post at this moment in time!!! I think so many of us are feeling the exact same way right now, it's kinda funny that we are all on the same page.
I'll be reading no matter what you blog about!!! :-)
Thanks so much, Summer! What a great cause!
I'm mainly a lurker because I don't have a blog but I have missed you and am glad you're back. Have a great day.
Martha...Thanks for de-lurking to comment. How about creating a blog and joining the rest of us. It is so easy and so much fun! Writing is a creative and therapeutic and a great way to meet people...obviously. lol
I'm glad you looked into letterboxing! I love it, and it's SO fun! It's also great exercise for some of them... I've hiked a couple miles for a box before! I also didn't realize that you were somewhat local to me... I'm in Champaign, so not too far from your parts, in relation to other blogger buddies of mine! Perhaps a letterboxing g2g in the future:) lol
OH Kathy, This posting makes me so happy. I come to your site almost every day and have wondered what is going on. Since I'm kinda new in Blogland,it is taking me awhile to catch on.
I started to do a blog about my getting healthy journey but to be honest I don't want to spend that much time thinking about what I am eating. I don't mention WW, weight and exercise but there is so much to life that is more interesting.
I'm looking forward to your next post. Blog on my new blog bud. JC
JC...Thanks so much. This has been one of the best blog days I've had in a very long time!
good point! some days I feel pretty lame posting my weight and thats about it. I dont always have something deep and intelligent to say so I think, who is going to read this anyways? but what you say is true and Im sure people care.
We've all got our stories. I hate writing about what I eat...only makes me want more. I try to throw in a few personal things as I like hearing about others as well. We're pretty much a blogging family now!
BTW: Last official pile of snow finally melted in Milwaukee on June 30! Don't ask me who keeps stats like that, but that's what the paper said.
Oh, thank goodness you're back. You can post your views on existentialsim for all I care. (You'll need to explain it to me first. *G*)
TB...I'm so glad you're a part of my blogging family and that the snow melted just in time for mowing grass and mosquitoes!
Cammy...What a wonderful thing to say! Not up on existentialism, but I could bore you to tears about politics, NASCAR, or sock knitting! lol
I too as you have been feeling the same way!! I've been thinking that losing weight is part of my life, but there is so much more and I've been more involved in those parts and have less time at the computer, hence so few posts of late. And like you I enjoy the people behind the blogs...though I've never met them, they feel like friends.
I'm as enthused as ever about weight loss---since I started reading (and practicing) Intuitive Eating...it's a great book and method and I wish it had been written decades ago. And my total weight loss to date is 15 pounds...5 more and I'll reach my goal of 20.
I'm so glad you posted because I've checked every day and I was worried there'd been a tragedy in your family...so glad that's not the case. Your life sounds wonderful to me and I love that you appreciate it...in my thinking you are a wonderful person and if we were neighbors I bet we'd be good friends too.
Cathy...Thanks for your kind words and I appreciate all my "cyber" neighbors. Noelle and I visit over our "cyber" fence frequently.
Congrats on the 15 pounds lost...I admire the way you've done it. Seems to me to be a very reasonable and sustainable approach.
Awesome! We should blog about other stuff aside from weight loss. I really like your attitude. Way to go!! :D
OH, my dear friend I have missed you so much! I am feeling the same way about blogging...I haven't kept up with my google reader, but I'd been checking it to hear from you and some others.
I will post now on MY blog!
As a blogger who has taken some time off from blogging here and there I have to say what a great post this is. There is so much to share of our lives and I hope I can and will stay back on track with my blogging. Just blogging...
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